MARRYING RIGHT: How do I know he's/she's the right one?
Two years ago he had visited his parent with a sober countenance. When asked what the problem was, he related how he had come across a beautiful fair lady who had stolen his heart, they've been friends for a year or two and he feared losing her to someone else if a binding ceremony (wedding) was not conducted sooner. Mummy, I'll die if I don't marry this girl o, he reinforced. After several pieces of advice to no avail, he persisted and was happily wedded.
It was no surprise that in the next family meeting a couple of months later that he had a half-filled exercise book which he purchased specially for the recordings of the faults of this once beloved wife had done. He read this faults out to their hearing, as he expressed his distress to continue in this life-draining union.
How could a marriage that began with such enthusiasm eventually grow sour? How could someone who was perceived as an angel suddenly become a devil?
Many individuals begin the journey of marriage with the wrong considerations and perceptions about their intending spouse, they are rather blinded by the affections and tickling sensations, the butterfly feeling in the lower abdomen (do we feel that?) Love is blind they say (smiles) isn't love blind? Let me get your reply in the response box.
NECESSARY CONSIDERATIONS TO DETERMINE WHO THE RIGHT ONE IS
First comes the understanding and properly differing between lust, infatuation, and love, then the critical consideration of these three essential factors;
Compatibility – This simply refers to the sharing of the same core values, rather than complementing each other's weakness, almost the same or related upbringing on the grounds of habits, likes, and certain beliefs. With these features, your partner is likely to be the first person you share good and bad news with. Most essential of all, you both come out of an argument in one piece, this is often enlightening and agreeable than exhaustive. I once heard about a couple who got divorced because of a disagreement on how to use toothpaste, one argued they should press from the underpart, the other felt it wasn't necessary from were, and they just had to part ways.
Psychological maturity - Attaining a level mentally where you can effectively respond to your environment appropriately and incorrect timing, knowing when to act according to various locations and circumstances. Here you would have attained a level of understanding of your spouse and devised a means to deal appropriately with his/her excesses. Maturity is a very essential ingredient as it would help remove many unnecessary battles and contentions.
Financial Stability - the bedrock for a comfortable family life finances, without it comes several frustrations that could act as a major threat to your marital bliss. More also if the search for finance occupies your time, you'll have little or no time to solidify your affection, creating holes for many marital attacks. Although this should not be a discouraging factor as couples could start from zero levels and grow an outstanding income. But the utmost is knowing the will of God in this regard, it is most assuring and secure.
With this understanding, knowing with whom this thing can be achieved lies a potential blissful marriage. The remainder is a deliberate effort in making your marriage work.
I am very certain you'll have a blissful marriage. Trust me, there are just a few things you could put in place. Begin to work on yourself today.
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What is your opinion of internet dating on christian websites including overseas contacts that are not scammers?
ReplyDeleteI am aware of several Christian dating websites with beautiful testimonies. However, you must give full access to the leadings of the holy spirit.
DeleteThere are also various test types you can do to verify your contact, such as video calls, voice chat is not always concrete. Scammers are quite rampant.