Unveiling Truth

"Do you know that the shark is attracted to blood, it perceives the scent of a wounded prey from 5km away" As essential as friendship is to personal development and societal status. Making the wrong friends could quite detrimental, as many persons are out to rather exploit vulnerabilities than contribute value. Also read:  Why people marry A friend once called me, from the sound of her voice she had cried her eyes out. She had many questions that she felt needed answers. And these were the words she said to me; “why do I always attract the worst of friends, they're only interested in my body, am jumping from one unhealthy relationship to another, are they an ideal friend that'll love me for me?” 89% of the friends you attract depends on your person, your vulnerabilities, and common grounds in likes and peers. A wounded fish will certainly attract a shark, so will an emotionally wounded fellow attract person-predators who only come around to take and walk away wh

I once joked with a younger neighbor that he was going to enjoy cooking for his wife when he gets married, his reply was sharp and stunning. "Am not going to get married" he yelled back. Why? I asked curiously, "the woman will drain me of my money" was his sincere response.  Smiles spread across my cheeks as I carefully thought his reply through, he didn't have an idea why people get married. Even many grownups today at marriageable age do not have a substantial reason for why they want to get married, the most common response is "we're in love!"  Individuals get married for several reasons, what could be the commonest reason you feel you should get married for (answer sincerely or I'll speak your mind). It could be for social, emotional, sexual, religious, spiritual, financial, or legal reasons. The most essentials are; For intimate companionship For procreation (childbearing and rearing) For mutual support for both partners in

A man once called on his elder siblings, "come and see, I have a devil in my house!" They rushed down to see as he pointed them in a direction where stood his beautifully endowed wife. "That is your wife" they replied. “Yes! My wife becomes a devil, she's not the same woman I married" and on and on he rattled the many evil the woman had done to him. Two years ago he had visited his parent with a sober countenance. When asked what the problem was, he related how he had come across a beautiful fair lady who had stolen his heart, they've been friends for a year or two and he feared losing her to someone else if a binding ceremony (wedding) was not conducted sooner. Mummy, I'll die if I don't marry this girl o, he reinforced. After several pieces of advice to no avail, he persisted and was happily wedded.  It was no surprise that in the next family meeting a couple of months later that he had a half-filled exercise book which he purchased specially

How could I have known the vanity of your promises, Your words so sweet, the best in my premises, You conquered my fears and chased out my nemesis, My spirit and soul were yours from the genesis Your intentions seemed clear, with so great exegesis, Destroying my doubts, cutting down my excesses, So grateful was I, I laid down for pleasure ephemerals, My wound not healed, yet pulled out the bandages. Not long after my pearl soiled, your words are now vanities, Disappearing so swiftly, like new leave from its branches, I followed my heart , entrusting it to my enemies, Now I lie alone in the dreadest of her fortresses. The pride of my youth - gone, To you it was all - fun, I alone now face this scurging - sun In the cruelty of your vices I - mourn I've always been moved by the stories of the girl child, it's abuse and vulnerability. But sometimes it's due ignorant and foolish consent to appeal so ingenuine and untrue. Although few have seen

Scrolling through your status and various uploads, The chattering of new friends and beautiful replies, As it displayed on my computer screen. I asked, where did my name go? I lay in ruins, in these deserted Ireland called lonely. Going through your profile, stories, and feeds. Were friends commend friends and beautiful pictures share, Filled with faces I've never known. Where did my face go? Hmm! I've never once seen my picture or name on your wall, Mine is deserted of all else but yours. But am estranged by any and everything close to you. So I ask again, where did my name go? I've indeed tended to your vineyard, but mine have I not kept. But where are my wages, for at least the affections you so promisingly foretold? I guess my beclouded my eyes, and all I thought I saw was but only illusions. Seeing the wind of time and circumstance have driven to oblivion the sweet memories we once shared. I'd bled for you, took your side at every turn. With tor

How can we resolve this situation, prosecute perpetrators and mend a thing when we know not who is to blame? Many youths are screaming their throats out in silence with made up faces and glamorous attires, a clog of beautiful dresses to mask off the pain they feel deep down inside. They go through situations, addictions and molestation but their voice just couldn't be heard because that's not what the society teaches us. The pastors, imams (political and religious leaders) and parents are deafened by religion and refuses to understand that we must first overcome today's challenges before we can ever reach out for heaven as a destination. We're fooled by appearances and faked up smiles, surrounded by men who seem to have no flaws leaving us no choice but to bottle ours up with an eternal hope of true liberation that may never come. His(God) face shines upon us but we can't see it for the chosen few who must model this are masked with serious and angry fac

Divine parenting is a phenomena that seeks to explore the fatherhood of God over us. Psa 91:4 He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth shall be thy shield and buckler. We often seem to ask questions such as; What are my assurances for physical security? What is God's plan for the orphans? What is God's plan for widows? Its always a thing of joy to have your parents around chattering for your needs, taking you hiking, shopping and site seeing. This is not always true for every single individual as we have differing parents and guarduans, while some may be absorbing and caring, others are repelling, callous and careless. But in all this, it is sweet to know that we have a divine parent who is always with us, in the pit or on the hill top, through the tears and smiles. They do not leave us when hell seems to be loosed against us, and their hands are always strechted out to save us from impending disasters if we'd

Well! Can we just walk up the street, church or school, grab anybody by the arm and proclaim to him/her. You're the one for me, the bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh? can we? Sure we can, but saying that's God's will for us is another ball game entirely. So, how do we pray, seek, find and confirm the will of God in marriage? Lam 3:27 It is good for a man that he bear the yoke in his youth. But first, what are the challenges we often face: Not seeking at all:  James 4:2 ...ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not. Some persons don't see the need to seek the face of God towards their life partner at all, they may feel character and charisma is enough test. This assumption is responsible for 95% of the break ups we experience today. Lately the number of break ups have truly skyrocketed and is over the roof, persons just hook up for physical likeness and dream of love, get married because they feel that'll keep their spouse committed, di

There's just one person created for you is a common fallacious statement we've heard over the years, I've defined " perfect will of God in marriage " as the most suitable life partner best suited to assist fulfill life's purpose. After Adam, in Gen 2:22-24 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man . It became man's sole responsibility to seek for himself a life partner with which there will both fulfill divine purpose. thus he states: Pro 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.  Gen 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they

When a child goes through the market and sees whatever he desires, he does not outrightly pluck it off. He runs off to inform his father on his latest discovery and his desire to possess it. The father then inspects the commodity if its suitable for his son's consumption or not; Is this really good for my son's consumption? Is it of any potential harm? Is this befitting for his person? Is this of any benefits to him? Are there better options? A young man/woman is like that child, (inexperienced, vulnerable and fragile) thus can be rather emotional(which is very deadly) than realistic in the choice for a life partner. Well, you could very much run off with whomever you please and start a family together, but take time to consider; Pro 24:6;15:22 For by wise counsel thou shalt make thy war: and in multitude of counsellors there is safety. Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counsellors they are established. The pastor and elders t

We often resolve that marriage is never void of contention or argument. Well, that may have been your own opinion over the years, but if you'll read with an open mind. For I hope to in this article unravel a mystery: that it can be completely void of any of these things for as long as these spouses live. We might futher say "argument is bound to occur seeing we were not born together, didn't grow together, differ in moral trainings, cultures and background". Well, i agree we differ so much but differences is not enough reason for argument, as argument is only the absence of reasoning. I'll love to sight examples from a model marriage (Abraham and Sarah). But first let's straighten out the definitions of key terms: Marriage : is the relationship that exists between a husband and a wife (a man and a woman). Argument : is an exchange of diverging or opposite views, typically a heated or angry one. Could also be termed in short "an angry disagreement&q