HIDDEN SECRETS TO ATTRACTING VALUE-PACKED FRIENDS

"Do you know that the shark is attracted to blood, it perceives the scent of a wounded prey from 5km away"

As essential as friendship is to personal development and societal status. Making the wrong friends could quite detrimental, as many persons are out to rather exploit vulnerabilities than contribute value.

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A friend once called me, from the sound of her voice she had cried her eyes out. She had many questions that she felt needed answers. And these were the words she said to me; “why do I always attract the worst of friends, they're only interested in my body, am jumping from one unhealthy relationship to another, are they an ideal friend that'll love me for me?”

89% of the friends you attract depends on your person, your vulnerabilities, and common grounds in likes and peers. A wounded fish will certainly attract a shark, so will an emotionally wounded fellow attract person-predators who only come around to take and walk away when they are nothing left.

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Simple steps to attracting the right friends are;

Self-assessment: Am I wounded? Several persons cling to friends for emotional support, maybe after going through a rough relationship, they cling to the nearest person who had made them smile and gave them hope, making them vulnerable to yet another heartbreak. That is no time to accept a proposal, as in a quest to relieve that pain, several mistakes can be made. Go back to your drawing board and take time to heal, forgive and move on.

Revaluation of the friends you desire: Not all friends are essential, revaluation should be a regular procedure in every life. The value added is measured with losses acquired. Not everyone we see that is so kind is meant to be dear friends. What value do they add to you?

This is not been harsh, this is been practical. If all they do is make you chuckle your time out, doesn't necessarily mean you chase them away. Just reevaluate your priorities, and learn to let go when necessary. Remember, your current blessing could be a hindrance to your later rising.

Re-position yourself: after you've freed up the space in your memory card, deleting none essentials. You seek for valuables right? In the same vein, reposition yourself for better friends. It could be a retouch to your profile page, deleting inappropriate pictures, and targeting key persons of influence. It could be as little as changing your association and moving on to a healthy one.

• Build value: mostly, the areas you want to attract persons could be to optimize your value. You must take the first step by building that value, learning a skill, reading books and other developmental materials.

• Showcase value: just like the choristers are accused of mincing fingers when in search of a suitor, advertise your value. Persons of value only desire to mingle with persons of value, display this values in your social handles, and other relevant gatherings.

• Ask questions: the way to the top is by asking questions, often times, persons of value get attracted to ready sincere learners. Sincere value is passed from one to another, this could be your chance of getting a value-packed friend.

• Request simple favors: simple favors they say make ways for greater favors. It is a display of common grounds, I want what you have because I like what you like. Even kings are maneuvered by this principle.

• Be receptive: when you're snobby with a repulsive attitude, you are at risk of losing genuine people, even those adored persons of value have certain flaws you may have to push through. Hence, it is your desire to learn that pushes you further.

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